Saying Yes to Playtime

Saying Yes to Playtime (1)

I love Shonda Rhimes and I’ve been waiting to read her book “Year of Yes” for a while now. I’ve requested it from the library and as of today I’m #4 in line to receive it.  Anyway, today I went on youtube looking to rewatch a pillowcase sewing tutorial. When I saw that Shonda Rhimes has a TED Talk about her year of saying yes to everything. I was expecting it to be similar to an NPR interview that I had heard a couple of months ago, but I’m glad that it wasn’t.

When I watched the TED talk I was surprised to hear that a few years ago Shonda had lost her love for the work that she does. Because it was just too much time spent doing it and she had burned out. She describes herself as a Titan. If you are familiar with her show Scandal then you know what it means to be a Gladiator. A Titan in Shonda’s case is just like a Gladiator. So it’s easy to see why she burned out. But, the real surprise was how she bounced back from the burnout.

It was by saying yes to her children when they asked her to play with them. Most importantly taking the time to play with her children without distractions. Giving herself time to play made a difference in her life and helped her to get back to loving what she did.

As a stay at home mom who homeschools and blogs, I sometimes get burned out on the never ending list of things that need to get done. Because there is always so much to do, I often put off playing with my kids. I’m always telling my children to wait until I’m finished doing such and such and then I’ll play with you. The bad part about this is that often our play time never happens. So, I’m going to start saying yes to playtime (and I’m saying no to multi-tasking while playing with my kids) I know it’s not possible to say yes every single time, but I’m aiming for saying yes playtime at least 80% of the time. I’m sure saying yes to playtime will help me to get accustomed to saying yes to other things too.

If you haven’t seen Shonda’s TED Talk take a few minutes to watch it and see if you are inspired to say yes to playtime too.


  • Reply Candace March 14, 2016 at 11:49 pm

    I’m so with you on burnout issues, Sonya. Shonda Rhimes is brilliant. She truly inspires me. I’ll have to check out this video. Thanks so much for sharing it. I feel like I put off important time with my family far too often. Wishing us both more yeses to playtime with our little people :)!
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    • Reply Sonya March 18, 2016 at 4:30 pm

      I hope you got a chance to watch Shonda’s TED talk it was a really inspiring one 🙂

  • Reply Tamara March 15, 2016 at 1:56 am

    Oh wow! And it’s weird because I couldn’t watch Grey’s for years and now I like it again. I wonder if I had to stop watching during her burnout years. I loved it before and after this time period.

    • Reply Sonya March 18, 2016 at 4:10 pm

      I was the same way with Grey’s Anatomy. I loved it for years and then when Burke left it wasn’t the same, but I still watched it. However, it just got to the point where it wasn’t as good to me and I stopped watching it. Now I usually catch the last time minutes before Scandal comes on. It looks like it is a lot better, but I’m usually getting the kids ready for bed before Scandal comes on when Grey’s is on.

  • Reply nerline March 15, 2016 at 12:16 pm

    Taking them away from the house is the best way to spend time with them. I am like you. I am more about getting blog posts ready or doing things around the house instead of playing with them. We have family game night on Sundays. Movie night on Thursdays. And outdoor activities at least every other week. Great post.
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    • Reply Sonya March 18, 2016 at 4:08 pm

      Hey Nerline, I need to implement a family game night around here. We play games but it’s more spur of the moment. I think I may take them out for a surprise away from the house today, so we can spend some uninterrupted time together 🙂

  • Reply robincharmagne March 16, 2016 at 10:37 pm

    This was a very sweet part of the book, yes take time for play. It’s good for you and the kids!
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    • Reply Sonya March 18, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      Hey Robin, it’s only been a couple of days of saying yes to playtime. But it’s definitely been good for all of us 🙂

  • Reply Dre March 17, 2016 at 11:17 pm

    I love this post, Sonya. It speaks so closely to my own experiences. For about a month, I took a little break from my blog to get my life, so to speak. I had read the part in Year of Yes where Shonda talked about stopping to play with the kids and I felt soooo guilty. Long story short, I stop what I’m doing to play with them now–especially my two year old. It’s still a bit hard for me to keep things consistent/balanced around the house and with everyone’s schedules though. It’s a work in progress, I suppose. Maybe balance is overrated lol.

    I didn’t know Shonda had a TED talk about Year of Yes! I’m saving it to my playlist to check out later.

    Great post! Thank you so much for sharing, Sonya!

    • Reply Sonya March 18, 2016 at 4:03 pm

      I can’t wait to get her book from the library. I completely understand about feeling guilty for not playing enough. It is hard to balance it all, but I’m still trying to say yes to playtime. Often I need that break too. But I will say that my daughter is not a 15-minute type of play time kid. She would play all day with me if she could 🙂 My son is now 8 so he isn’t so much into playing with me as much.

  • Reply Mrs. AOK March 21, 2016 at 12:17 am

    I have felt the same way as you, and I think it’s nice to stop and consider what NEEDS yes and what can be truly put on hold. Playtime is something we all need to say yes to.
    I love TED Talks!
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